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SUCCESS EXPRESS JOURNAL


Volume 3, Issue 4 – November 1995

© Copyright 1995 – The Success Express Press.

TABLE OF CONTENTS:

–    LOL in the morning
–    Tips from the Top – TIP #3 – King Pygmalion
–    Seminar Review – Life In Vancouver – Dr Wayne Dyer
–    SEJ’s WORLD
–    This Week’s Topic – Questions
–    The Cybergym Exercise of the Week
–    CONTEST “Quote of the Week” (Now everyone is a winner!)
–    FEEDBACK (please send us your thoughts)
–    Copyright © and Trademark ™ Information

LOL, in the morning

This weeks Humor Topic: MORE ENGLISH BLUNDERS….

When traveling abroad one may notice from time to time that translations from the native language to English may not have been entirely smooth, for instance a store in Europe posted two signs professing their ability to speak English which read as follows: “English well talking” and “Here speeching American”

In honor of the store who posted these signs, we will – for at least 10 weeks – include three examples of similar translation errors that have been spotted around the world. (Please send any you have spotted to eric@isisnet.com with the subject header “LOL”. (Please include your name if you wish to be credited.)

On the menu of a Swiss restaurant:
“Our wines leave you nothing to hope for.”

In an Austrian hotel catering skiers:
“Not to perambulate the corridors in the hours of repose in the boots of ascension.”

In the hotel in Athens:
“Visitors are expected to complain at the office between the hours of 9 and 11am daily.”

If you have something worth a good laugh, please send it to sej@hypnosis.com with the subject header LOL.

FEATURE: TIPS FROM THE TOP!

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have all the luck in the world? While others seem to hit walls everywhere they turn? Have you ever experienced this in your life? What determines when you are on a role vs. when you’re in a rut? The answer may be surprisingly simple and it’s source is probably the last place you might think. The answer comes from within yourself (I’ll bet you knew I was going to say that.” It’s a dynamic called the Pygmalion Effect, and it’s a primary force in which I govern my life.

Long ago, on the Island of Cyprus lived the great King Pygmalion. King Pygmalion was an incredible leader, but unfortunately a very lonely man. His constant yearning for companionship and love created a great void in his life.

One day he set out to create a sculpture of the perfect woman. All of the sorrow and loneliness left his heart when he worked on the sculpture. When he finished, he had created a work of art with such beauty and perfection that he fell in love with it. So much so, that he prayed to the Greek Goddess of Love, Aphrodite to bring her to life. Knowing that his prayers would be answered, he announced to his Kingdom that he was to wed his creation. Everyone thought he was crazy, and perhaps he was, but Aphrodite was so touched by his intention and certainty, that she struck an arrow through the heart of the sculpture and brought her to life! Pygmalion and Galatea (his newly named bride), were married and lived happily ever after.

Since then, when someone expects something with so much certainty, and so much conviction that it actually happens, it is called the Pygmalion Effect. This Greek Myth describes the power of intention. My dear friend Brian Biro, author of “The Relay Paradigm” and the man who introduced me to the story of King Pygmalion said it best: “As we communicate the vision we have for others and the expectations we hold for them, we create a magnetic pull that draws then in direction of those expectations.”

I have never forgot those words, and I attempt to live each day with them in mind. In fact, I was inspired to write about this topic when I had a friend ask me if she could borrow my car. I of course agreed, and told her that the keys were on the seat of the car and to leave the keys in the same place when she was finished. After a few “Your Crazy!” statements (it takes some people longer to appreciate the beauty of the story). I explained how one of my missions in life is to be a “Positive Pygmalion” in the world.

The Pygmalion Effect has been substantiated in a number of studies throughout the years. Including my own: I have tested this effect by leaving my car unlocked in New York with the keys, cellular phone, and radar detector all on the dashboard. With absolute certainty that it would remain safe, I left the car unattended for the entire weekend and came back to find that it was just as I left it.

A researcher from Harvard University, Robert Rosenthal tested the Pygmalion Effect: He went to elementary schools and informed the teachers that he was administering a test that would identify academic potential within the students. What the teachers did not know is that the test was a sham. Rosenthal selected a group of students (chosen completely at random), and told the teachers that the test had revealed these children to be exceptionally intellectual for their age. At the end of the school year, an overwhelming majority of children identified as “gifted” had improved both their IQ scores and their grades. Why did this happen? Because the phony test scores raised the teachers’ expectation levels for these students. As a result, they treated the randomly selected children as if they were special. In other words, every aspect of the teachers’ behavior communicated their belief in these children, so the children’s belief in themselves were raised.

Rosenthal also went on to perform similar studies with welding students at the community college level, and produced the same results. The Pygmalion Effect is real. As we communicate our expectations of others, we impact their expectations of themselves. Does it not make sense then, that we in fact will impact our own personal results in life based on our own personal expectations?

This dynamic can also work in reverse. It is my feeling that some, not all of the negative events in the world are created from a “Negative Pygmalion” effect. So many people these days expect to be robbed or mugged, that it actually becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s not limited to crime either. For example, my mother gets in a car wreck at least once each year. Why? Well, I think that one of the reasons is, she expects she will! She is chronic passenger braker (those people who apply imaginary brakes to slow down when they aren’t driving). By the way, in case you’re wondering. I love my Mother dearly, I just don’t drive with her. My father believes that his high blood pressure is hereditary. True, he may have genes passed down from the generations, but so do i. why then don’t have high blood pressure?

Have you ever experienced the Pygmalion Effect in your life? If so, I certainly hope it was for good. If you are experiencing events or situations in your life that you don’t want to have happen, ask yourself this: Do you expect them to happen? Remember those people who seem to have nothing but good things to happen, and almost invariably they will say yes. They seem to be “invincible” to negative happenings

Now I realize that this leaves open a huge philosophical debate, and you could probably find as many examples in life about a positive intention “didn’t work.” But the truth is, negative expectancy just doesn’t serve you or the world. Einstein once said “I’d rather be optimistic and a fool than pessimistic and right” I guess that’s my philosophy, and maybe I’m crazy for it; but then again… so was King Pygmalion.

Until next week, take care, dare, dream, and make each day an epic adventure!

To Your Success,
Wayne R. Morrison
Pinnacle Achievements 800 265 7489
pinnacle@hypnosis.com

This Week’s REVIEW: “Live in Vancouver” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

This was my first introduction to Wayne Dyer, and I have since listened to it over and over again. Dr. Dyer has such a wonderful speaking style which makes for very easy listening. His message is clear and understandable. It also has practical application in ALL of our lives. His insightful humor and soft delivery really help to reach into your soul and inspire you. In fact, one of the most important lessons I have ever learned was on this tape: There are only two things in life to worry about; things you can control them, you must stop worrying and take action, and if you can not control them, you must stop worrying because there is no sense worrying about something which you have no control of. This one piece of advice has had a massive effect on who I am, and how I respond to situations. Thank you, Dr. Dyer!

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This week’s Topic: QUESTIONS

Tony Robbins teaches that nothing in life has any meaning but the meaning you give it. Wayne Dyer teaches that you need not worry about things over which you have no control. These are both fantastic pieces of advice.

The real issue is one of communication. What meanings are you giving to certain happenings in your life? The meanings you come-up with are invariably tied to the type of questions you ask yourself. For instance, assume that something potentially bad happened to two people and one asked, “Why does this always happen to me?” and the other asked, “What can I learn from this experience?” Do you think that they would come up with different meanings? Of course they would. One person comes way with a negative meaning which he allows to further destroy his self image. (People asking “Why does this keep happening to me?” are suggesting that bad things ‘always’ happen to them. If people were to believe this, they could find themselves looking for more evidence to prove this. In fact, they could become determined to find evidence, and show it to others. I am sure we have all met someone like this in the past) On the other hand, someone who asks the more empowering question is going to fond more empowering answers. What would happen if someone were to ask empowering questions on a consistent basis. What kind of long term benefits would they receive from forming this habit now?

I wonder what will be fantastic about your week?

Until next time,
Good Luck and Good Spirits!

THIS WEEK’S MENTAL WORKOUT: Asking the RIGHT questions

These exercises can be instrumental in the success conditioning process. In order to use them, you must do them. Simply reading through will not help you attain your goals – so please take action now, and each week.

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped”
– Anthony Robbins

As discussed above, questions are how we evaluate the various happenings in our lives. In fact we are always asking questions about everything. (You may just asked yourself, “Do I” – I think that should answer your question.” So this week, we are going to condition ourselves to ask better quality questions.

For this exercise you will need (now) your journal, and a pen. (If you do not keep a journal, I strongly advise starting one right away. Keeping track of your progress is highly important)

Each morning of this week, please ask yourself, answer 2 of the following questions. This way you ask each of them twice. (Please do this in your journal.)

“What am I most excited about today?”
“Who can I create massive benefit for today?”
“Who can I show my appreciation to today?”
“What can I do today, to move me closer to my goals?”
“What am I going to do today to have fun?”

We are putting together a book of “Empowering, Motivating and Problem Solving Questions.” So if you would like to send in some questions that you find compelling, please send them to 103041.3717@compuserve.com

This publication is sent out, for free, on a weekly basis. Please honour our copyright.  While this publication is sent out for free, it is not intended for ‘public domain’. You may post it to any BBS’s, newsgroups or forums provided you post it unchanged including any and all advertisements. If you have any questions, please contact the editor (editor@ericedmeades.com).  You may also, (and are encouraged) to manually forward it (unchanged) to people who you feel may have an interest in, or benefit from, receiving this journal.

(C) Copyright 1995, Eric Edmeades

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November 27, 1995 at 4:05 am

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